no matter how bad we think another's decision is, we have to respect their decision as a first cut. we need to respect that they have a reason and a right to make that choice in the first place. let's not talk about correcting/coercing them out of their current choice so quickly.

we ourselves must really come to accept this fact that they can make a decision contrary to our views. they can make a decision that is going to destroy what we think. they can make a decision which polarizes people. we must come to accept this truth.

when we see it in this way, that's where we can love without any vested interests. we need no reciprocation. we need no transaction. we do not need them to understand us, we do not need them to realise what we are thinking.

we love others anyways. now i see why god can command us, love your neighbour as yourself. when we have zero vested interests, that is where we can do so. having said this, we show ppl that they should correct their mistakes (as we perceive), while giving them the space to realise it in faith and in hope. if they do not see the same way as us, once again we have to accept that as that.